Fit Mom Spotlight – Kara Silva

Kara Silva and Julie StubblefieldI’m super excited to introduce you to a new series here on the blog.  Each month, I’ll be featuring a mom who takes care of herself, puts a great message into the world, and represents any type of physique, style of exercise, or method of nutrition.    It’s called the Fit Mom Spotlight, and the first feature is Kara Silva!

While Kara is known for her badassery around a barbell, she’s also known for her kind, warm heart.  I’ve had the pleasure of knowing her for quite a while and feel fortunate to call her one of my closest friends. I hope you will enjoy getting to know just a small part of her through the Fit Mom Spotlight, and I bet you adore her, too!

What 3 words best describe you?

Passionate, authentic, happy

Tell us why you’re awesome in 3 sentences or less! 

I love learning so I am always practicing, trying out, reading new things which leads to growth and resilience. I love connection with others and consciously work to be a good friend, mom, wife, coach, person. I am passionate about helping others connect with what makes them happy in life and making the most of what ever time we have. 

What are your 3 biggest indulgences? 

White Russians, anything peanut butter, half and half (lots and lots of half n half)

What’s your biggest fitness/wellness pet peeve? 

People who tell women they should not lift heavy weights. Also, any lie that we are sold that tells us that our happiness is dependent on what size we are.

What’s your favorite type of exercise? 

Olympic Weightlifting (The snatch and clean and jerk). I love practicing all that goes into being good at those lifts. Power, speed, beauty all wrapped together.

What’s your preferred way to unwind? 

Snuggled up on the couch with my husband and kitties or a long walk in the park near my house. 

What’s YOUR definition of fit? 

A fit person to me is some one who has their stress is well managed, their sleep is great, they can move in ways that make them happy and eat in ways that fuel them for what they want want to do. Also, a fit person loves their life. 

What is one thing you cannot live without? 

Coffee and a barbell. Oh. That is two things. How about Coffeeandabarbell.  

What is going on in your life that you are most excited about right now?  

I would have to name two things. 

IMG_54101) I am growing in lots of ways around Olympic weightlifting. I just attended a masters Olympic weightlifting camp at the Olympic Training center which was awesome. I run a barbell club for women, which I love and I have two competitions coming up! 

2) I have made some huge gains this year in the personal development area. I don’t know if its due to all the work and practice I do in this area or just a function of being in my 40s (probably both). I have suffered from depression and binge eating most of my life. I have always thought I was broken in some way and spent so much time wishing I was different. I can honestly say that I haven’t had a super depressed day in months and I am at a BIG TIME peace with who I am and how I feel about my body. I no longer feel like I am a broken person. I am human, perfectly imperfect. I haven’t hated on my stomach (my big “problem” area) in months. There is just peace and love. That feels so huge to me to not be at war with myself anymore. Aaahh. 

10.What’s your favorite book and why? 

Dan John’s Don’t Let Go. Its so fun and its motivating. I always want to go lift when I read it. 

Are you a morning person or a night owl? 

Morning person. Even when I was little I was the first asleep at slumber parties and first to wake up. I love the quiet of the morning and my energy is just better then. 

What has been your biggest fitness/wellness challenge?

Loving who I am. I thought for so many years that I was a terrible, lazy, undisciplined person and if I could just pull it together and be “fit” every thing would be happy, whole and complete. I have had plastic surgeries. I have been a size 4. I was not happier at any of those times. Not many people talk about the mindset and all the personal development work that is not food or workout related. I swear if you solve that, love who you are then you really want to take care of this precious body you have and you dig who you are in the world, its a different way of being. Peace and love, y’all.

What’s your favorite quote? 

That is tough. I could name a lot of things but this is what I have taped to my wall next to my computer. Its from a site called Soul Seeds.

Open your mind and let it be blown by the wonder of being alive. Open your eyes and let them pop with the colors of nature, the color of friendship, the color of life. Open your ears and let them soak in the sound of silence, the sound of music, the sound of sweet everything. Open your heart and let it break and mend and beat with undying gratitude.”

What is ONE tip you could give moms who are struggling with their physique right this second? 

Be kind to yourself. Take a deep breath. We spend so much time thinking that change will happen with shame, anger, berating, discipline. It doesn’t happen that way, or at least for not very long.  Trying loving you. Being kind to you. See what kind of change that brings.

IMG_2543How can we stalk find you?

 Site:  http://zenbarbell.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ZenBarbell and https://www.facebook.com/karasilva10

Instagram: @zenbarbell

Add-on by Julie:  Kara didn’t mention that she delivered an AMAZING TED talk last December.  I have to say it is probably one of my favorites, and I’ve watched many over the years.  Take 4 minutes and watch it at this link.  You won’t regret it!!

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